Have you ever noticed that anger, especially righteous indignation, is energizing? When I believe I’ve been hurt, I might even brood over the indignity, refusing to forgive, to amp up that energy. But refusing to forgive actually hurts me more than it does the other person.

Forgiveness is part of recognizing our shared humanity – that we all make mistakes as we experiment and learn. Forgiveness is part of compassion – for myself as well as for others. Forgiving focuses on the person, not the action. And forgiving frees energy.

Try this for a week: Each day notice a situation where you are getting irritated or angry because of someone’s behavior. Ask yourself when you have behaved in a similar way and why you did that. Does that help you have compassion for the other person (while not condoning the behavior)?

Dorothy Riddle
Award-winning author & social change specialist
In 1996, I was the first Canadian appointed by the then Prime Minister Chrétien to represent Canada on the APEC Business Advisory Council, holding the small and medium size enterprise portfolio. My professional work has focused on teaching, speaking, writing, and consulting on service in its broadest sense:

1. Services in economic development: Since 1981, I have developed and taught graduate courses on the management and marketing of international services, consulted with governments on services trade issues & negotiation strategies, trained over 1,500 trade officers & 45 service industry associations to assist service exporters more effectively, and trained over 10,500 small service exporters in 86 countries to export services successfully. I’ve written 8 handbooks for the International Trade Centre UNCTAD/WTO, and developed online tools to assess services export competitiveness.

2. Services to address social issues: In 1972, I began the first BA-granting Women Studies program at City University of New York. Since then I have worked on a range of social issues including gender, homophobia, and labor force development. With Valerie Ward, I co-developed the Employment Readiness Scale™ (www.EmploymentReadiness.info) to help organizations assist their clients to be successful in their work lives.

3. Service as a spiritual practice: In my work on spiritual development, I have written articles focused particularly on feminist spirituality, the importance of language in shaping how we view and understand the world, and the nature of the Will in spiritual practice.

Specialties: Author
Keynote speaker/ facilitator
Services & economic development
Employment readiness
New world of work
Women’s issues
Homophobia/Riddle Scale
Metaphysics/Ageless Wisdom
Harmlessness
Social change
Nonhuman personhood

I have been a frequent expert guest on radio programs and am available for discussion on the topics listed above. See my most recent interviews on Transformation Talk Radio.