Each of us belongs to a number of communities, based on location, culture, shared interests, shared values, or shared organizational structures. When we think of our town or neighbourhood, we usually are considering a geographic area that we identify with whether or not we feel close to all of the people there. In other words, we can identify with a location without necessarily having a deeper sense of community.

Usually, though, when we talk about community, we are talking about more than a physical co-location. We are referring to some sense of connection, of belonging. So, if we want a geographic location to also feel like a real community, what more do we need?

It is unrealistic to think that everyone who lives in one place would have exactly the same interests or even share all of the same values. Indeed, a community would be a pretty dull place if everyone were exactly the same. We grow through considering new ideas and perspectives. Canadian communities, in particular, generally value multiple cultural backgrounds and diversity of thought.

So how do we nurture diversity in a way that brings us together? The answer lies in having and demonstrating respect for each other. Being genuinely curious about another’s perspective. Adopting an attitude of active listening – really hearing what matters to the other person instead of focusing on our own rebuttal. Assuming that the other has a legitimate concern, even if it is different from our own.

How do we cultivate respect for each other? Some techniques including treating everyone we meet the way we would want them to treat us. Be courteous and polite to each other, and listen without interrupting to each other. Don’t judge others, or accept denigrating comments about others, before we get a chance to really know that person ourselves. Remember that we share some common cause with just about everyone, so look for those areas of commonality instead of assuming only difference.

Dorothy Riddle
Award-winning author & social change specialist
In 1996, I was the first Canadian appointed by the then Prime Minister Chrétien to represent Canada on the APEC Business Advisory Council, holding the small and medium size enterprise portfolio. My professional work has focused on teaching, speaking, writing, and consulting on service in its broadest sense:

1. Services in economic development: Since 1981, I have developed and taught graduate courses on the management and marketing of international services, consulted with governments on services trade issues & negotiation strategies, trained over 1,500 trade officers & 45 service industry associations to assist service exporters more effectively, and trained over 10,500 small service exporters in 86 countries to export services successfully. I’ve written 8 handbooks for the International Trade Centre UNCTAD/WTO, and developed online tools to assess services export competitiveness.

2. Services to address social issues: In 1972, I began the first BA-granting Women Studies program at City University of New York. Since then I have worked on a range of social issues including gender, homophobia, and labor force development. With Valerie Ward, I co-developed the Employment Readiness Scale™ (www.EmploymentReadiness.info) to help organizations assist their clients to be successful in their work lives.

3. Service as a spiritual practice: In my work on spiritual development, I have written articles focused particularly on feminist spirituality, the importance of language in shaping how we view and understand the world, and the nature of the Will in spiritual practice.

Specialties: Author
Keynote speaker/ facilitator
Services & economic development
Employment readiness
New world of work
Women’s issues
Homophobia/Riddle Scale
Metaphysics/Ageless Wisdom
Harmlessness
Social change
Nonhuman personhood

I have been a frequent expert guest on radio programs and am available for discussion on the topics listed above. See my most recent interviews on Transformation Talk Radio.