Why do we tend to think things are “either—or”? Is such duality truly an illusion? We are so used to thinking in simple comparisons that we assume duality is just the nature of things. But if we look a little closer, life is more complex. Take any polar opposites and you will find that there are more than two alternatives. For example, “day” and “night”—we have dawn, dusk, noon, and so on.

Some people think of nonduality as moving beyond individual awareness to “merge” with the cosmos. But is that appropriate or even necessary? Can we accept the challenge of viewing the world from multiple perspectives while maintaining our sense of centered self? Can we train ourselves to see more than two options as a matter of habit?

What helps you keep from being dualistic in your thinking? Why would you bother?